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Love is a gift from God and it comes naturally (without us asking for).
At times we doubt, how can it be a blessing?
Can't get love of the person we want?
When we are deeply in love, Allah decided to put an end to it?
What's the purpose of the feelings?
Our love to be lead to the ultimate love.
Most important love, for Allah and Rasulullah (Purest, truest, never rejected, never disappoints, always ours).
We are servants of love, everyday (for Allah and His Messenger).

Natural feeling, normal development (Whether it's a reciprocated one or not).
To self love (Without it, can lead to negative actions: suicidal, etc).
"We love someone, they don't love us. We don't love them, they love us"
No matter if it is known/visible to the other party or not, sincerity lies within oneself. (action speaks louder than words)
Whether a gift is from God or another human being, which is more important? The gift or the giver?
But why do we show appreciation to the gift more? (the gift we have been wanting, not the giver?)
When you forget the Giver or the rules of love, that's when the love becomes negative, no longer a blessing.

Traffic lights and signage on the roads, does it mean we can't drive?
No, but it's there for us to drive safely. Hence, Allah specify rules for love.
Many focus on the love, forgetting the rules.
The love can go as far (engaged, married, blessed with children, etc) but stopped by him (separated, divorced, etc).
WHY? To remind you of The Giver and don't just appreciate the gift.
To show you the the real, valuable, immortal love.
(eg. from crying in prayers because of your problems, will develop into for the Almighty)
Prayers are healer of wounds.
Facing calamity?: إِنَّا لِلهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ. اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي، وَاخْلُفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا. "inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji`un; Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khayran minha - Surely from Allah we are and to Him we shall certainly return. O Lord, give me in return something good from it which only You Exalted and Mighty, can give."

Whenever you question the giver, remember His blessings.
When you're out of love, you'll complain/let out to Allah (best/ideal scenario).
What is meant for you will be yours. It's a matter of time. If not it was never ours.
Love not solely for the similarities, but the differences that determines the worthiness (tolerance level, mindset, understanding).
God to grant us meeting someone better, for the betterment.
To give your love to someone who knows how to appreciate, do not self hurt.
Even if it's true love (human beings), one day they'll return to the Creator.
At this juncture, you might see/hear good things about the person, but down the road might not be good for you (they change/something negative happens in their life, etc). Whats good now does not equates to a good later.
Different people are blessed differently (House, spouse, kids, wealth, health, etc).

Love for Rasulullah. (Supplications, etc)
Despite guaranteed paradise, he willingly wanting to save his ummah.
On judgement day, everyone (even our parents and prophets) will worry about themselves.

Do not give a non-permanent statement (there's no forever).
Love for the sake of Allah, we will be more accepting to fate.
No matter the ending OR the response, with the right intention, we will not be overly disappointed.
Be primitive in loving/hating someone (both may cause harm to ourselves).
Do not devalue "love". Actions > Words.
Make dua for them, pray for their well being, success, etc. Allah controls their heart.
Istikharah is a guide, not a firm answer.
Seek the cause of the relationship/marriage, depends on basis, it can be sunnah (for the betterment, etc) / wajib (avoid the wrath of Allah, etc) / haram (for worldly reasons, ctc).

Make dua for your exes, any of them, whether it's good or bad past. Pray for them, positively.
Everyone have been the cause of disappointments and be disappointed.
Broken heart? To be accepting and move on. (time will heal, and put in effort: do not go for rebound, go for avoidance if needed)

When to stop waiting? If it's too long (unreasonable, not achievable), doesn't look positive, no signs/response.
Put hope, pray
If it happens? Good. If not? Good.
Follow: Heart, Mind, Allah's help.
Dignity and Pride: If not meant to be together, it's okay. Will get someone better, and hope the same for them too.

Do not self harm for the sake of what you thought was love (domestic violence, made use of, etc)
Qada Muallaq: 1-Your request, your effort to get a good choice (through hard work. Eg, your methods of knowing the person)
Qada Mubram: 1-Fated, meant to be, destined (no options, just happens. Eg, born into which family).
What's determined for you is not what you're able to decide on your own (destined).
Even if you know he/she is not a good person but you constantly request for your wish to be fulfilled, that's your decision, will cause damage.
Unless you did your part (research, etc) on the person appears to be good but end up the opposite, that is fate.
Are you good enough to have them to be part of you? OR are they good enough to be part of you?
You complete them, vice versa.
"bad women for bad men" / "good men for good women", BUT you have to find good people yourself, exhaust all possible ways.
It's a matter of accepting each other (no matter the problems or the past).
How much to tell about your past? (depends on situation/partner/your own will).

Hasbunallah Wa Ni’mal Wakil, Ni’mal Maula Wa Ni’man Nasir. Laa Hawla Wa-Laa Quwwata illa Billah Hil Aliyil Azeem.

Allah is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs for us. There is no might nor power except Allah, The Highest, The Almighty.